two months and counting!

time flies! today marks our second "monthsary." i miss J so much... :(

in light of this, i'd like to share this post by Ms. Seuss for all us married couples out there. such wise words! :)

Never go to sleep angry.
You won’t be able to sleep comfortably anyway because the other person is beside you and you’re both digging this little trench on the bed that not even the hem of your nightgown is supposed to cross.

There are habits you CANNOT change.
If he is messy, then he is messy. Don’t create wrinkles that will add to your derma bill. Even if he pretends to clean up it will only be for a month. Same thing applies to you anyway. You’ll never be able to kick that habit of shopping for your nth pair of shoes.

Your spending and saving habits need to align. Or at least agree on a percentage. Really.
If you both believe in seizing the moment, then blowing your bonuses on a trip to Vanuatu is cool. But if one is a compulsive saver and the other is in love with the concept of a sale then building up a fund for a home is going to be tricky

Don’t forget to take some “ME” time.
Take care of yourself. You won’t be able to take care of anyone else in the long run if you don’t. Don’t feel guilty about it. He loved you for your independence. Don’t lose it just because of a Mrs. prefix or a hyphenated surname.

Create space between yourselves.
Trees grow better when they both catch sunlight.

Like nature, a marriage has seasons.
Keep the memories of summer in your heart when you go through a harsh winter. Remember you will get past it if you keep faith long enough till your next spring.

Keep God in the Center.
If there is something which will be instrumental in the success of a marriage, it is your relationship as a couple to Him/Her. (Oh, and add to that your mom-in-law or equivalents thereof at the periphery :-))

When you pray for your husband, pray for yourself too.
Sometimes when you ask God to change this or that about the love of your life, you actually need to ask Him/Her to work on you.

Talk. Wait --- COMMUNICATE.
Over the years the definition of the word “husband” will evolve as your relationship grows deeper. Part of the evolution is in how you discuss the profound and the mundane...

In the long run, it’s the ordinary everyday that matters.
Flowers, gifts, and big celebrations are great. But that’s just the icing on the cake. Make a REALLY good cake.